Subject Line: Weekly Nugget: Kill Being Nice | Quit Being Nasty

I want to talk about two terrible moves we make at work that hold us back, limit others, and waste our time and potential. Those are ‘being nice’ and ‘being nasty.’

They may appear opposite, but belong to the same game of dominating and being dominated.

Being nice delays the inevitable, and being nasty promotes the unthinkable. Being nice is overrated, and it won’t get you far. It might even be holding you back.

Unlike what many people might think, “Being nice” is not a personality trait—it's a mood, an opinion formed by the fear that if you aren’t nice, people won’t like you, and your future will suffer.

Nice people often tolerate nonsense, suffer silently, and miss out on opportunities to make a difference. Life’s challenges demand authenticity and courage, not a permanent strategy of niceness.

And being nasty is just that — nasty. It is an attempt to bully others into submission. But karma is real, and all too often, ‘if you live by the sword, you die by the sword.’ The world has had enough of bullies. Being nasty wins you no loyalty and no care, and gets you an ill reputation. People will most likely betray you at the first chance they will get.

Let me introduce you to two alternative moves that will give you an unprecedented advantage in the game of life. That is ‘being kind’ and ‘being direct.’ Being kind is not being nice. Being direct is not being nasty. Being direct and being kind is full of care for yourself and others in the game. You have a much higher chance of winning hearts, minds, and sustainable power at the end.

Time spent being nice and suffering silently is time wasted. Stop tolerating nonsense and wasting your and others' time. Kill being nice. Time spent on being nasty is time spent on mutual destruction. Quit being nasty.

Now, killing being nice and quitting being nasty isn’t easy. If you want to learn how to do it, I will teach you in a free live session on Maven next Wednesday, June 12th, at 12 p.m. Pacific. It is only 30 minutes long. So join me. Register here.

P.S. I thank my friend, Darrel Rhea, for provoking me to discuss the flip side: “being nasty” in the same breath.

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